Stone Soup for Five

Aug 21, 2015

In light of the Josh Duggar wreck

I hate "celebrity" news.  I really do.  But when something as crushing as the Josh Duggar mess comes to light, there are lessons here that are so important that I can't ignore them.  This morning I was wide awake at 4am with my mind swirling about Josh Duggar.


I won't speak on if his parents did what was right when he was a teen, because none of us know the FULL story.  But I will speak on what I can do now with my own teens and pre-teen.  Some lessons I learned the hard way, and some are gleaned from others wiser than I.

Talk to your kids about sex.  
If you don't, someone else will.  And it most likely will not be someone with their best interests in mind.  You absolutely have to teach them that it is okay to come to you honestly.  And moms, DO NOT FREAK OUT.  They will not be open and honest if you are going to yell, cry, or lose it.  Pray for strength and breathe deep because I'm going to be honest with you: It's not IF your kids see pornography, it's WHEN they see it.  It's going to happen and you need to be prepared for it.  Open that door with your children and let them know that you are someone they can talk to.  If your kids are younger, keep it age appropriate.  But if they are older, don't be afraid to be blunt with them.  

Know that pornography is addicting. 
This isn't just a battle of the will, but something that will lead to serious addiction.  Our family has a history of alcoholism and I've seen first hand the destruction it can cause.  From early on I have talked to my boys about it and warned them that the seeds of alcoholism are in them too.  And after lots of talks with others, I can tell you that pornography sears into the brain in a way similar to alcoholism and drug addiction and can "re-wire" the mind.  It's nothing to mess with, even a little bit.  Be honest with your kids about the damage it causes.  Even honest non-believers will admit it is an all encompassing habit that is destructive and hard to break.

Teach them to guard their hearts.  
From early on, we tried to teach our boys to "bounce their eyes" during pretty much every commercial during football season or any other place or time they saw an immodestly dressed girl.  Teach your children to look away.  Teach them that it's not "How far can I go before this is sin?" but rather "How can I keep myself pure?"

Pay attention.
Pornography affects both girls and boys.  Know who your kids' friends are, where they are going, and what they are doing, playing, reading.  Be in their business.  Pay attention to video games, tv shows, tablet games, internet use.  We can be super proactive and shut down everything in the house, password protect the wifi, block the internet access, and set blocks on electronics, but don't let that lull you into a false sense of security.  There are always new ways to do what your heart desires.  We need to give them the tools to FIGHT this.  Lock down what you can, pay attention to what they're doing, but then teach them how to respond responsibly.  Teach them that their heart is deceitful above all else and to be constantly renewing their mind.

Teach them to FLEE from sin.  
None of us is "strong enough" to handle sin. None of us.  We are all sinful creatures and there is a constant battle going on for our hearts.  Satan cannot take away a believer's salvation, but he can totally smear and destroy their lives.  And he's really, really good at it.  Teach them that this is a very slippery slope.  One step on it leads to another and before they realize it, they can be in a place they never thought they'd be.  Teach them not to even go look over the edge of that slope, because the ground is very unstable and has been known to crumble beneath millions of people.

Suit up for battle, because this is a war.  
We can talk, teach, guide, and instruct, but most of this war is truly on the spiritual level.  Most of it will be fought out on our knees.  Are you praying for your kids passionately in this area?

As believers we need to enter this battle on the spiritual level.  Pray for your sons and daughters that a hedge will be built around them.  Pray that the spirit of lust, immorality and perversion will be bound and removed from them.  Pray for protection for your house, your family, your mind, your husband.  Pray for eyes to see the truth and not turn away from it.  Pray for strength and wisdom to see and fight this battle.

Lather, rinse, repeat.  
This is not a "one and done" thing.  This is a way of life.  Talk to your kids and make a deal that anytime you ask how they are doing in the area of purity that they will be completely honest with you.  Then be constantly inoculating them.  Now is a great time to bring it up, you have an automatic starting place just discussing Josh Duggar or Jared from Subway. (I've never heard if he's a believer, but you can discuss how pornography has ruined his life now too.)  A great blog (and internet filter) is Covenant eyes.  They have hundreds of great articles on their blog about dealing with porn.  http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/  

Don't give up.  
If you or anyone in your family has already headed down this slope, don't give up.  In Christ we ALWAYS have hope.  Find someone to talk to at your church.  Or if you don't have a church home or don't feel comfortable going there, you can find great counselors at http://www.biblicalcounseling.com/  or   http://www.celebraterecovery.com/
















Aug 20, 2015

When you've stopped doing the important things

In an ideal world, I would be awesome at my goals.  I would plan the week in my Bullet Journal, review the previous week, record progress toward my goals, and start the week with laser focus.

But in reality, when Sunday rolls around, I glance at my bullet journal and calendar, guilt trip myself for a bit, then surf online, take a nap, or procrasti-clean something.


Aug 10, 2015

Monday books, plans, and goals

I hope to start a new weekly post on Monday about the week's plans and goals and then follow up later in the week with a report on how it went.  I need the accountability and organization.

Since we just got back from 8 wonderful days of camping, I'm feeling refreshed and clear-headed and hopefully can get more summer fun crammed in along with planning for the new school year!


Aug 5, 2015

The most important thing you'll learn from the Corinthians



The Corinthian church was a church of men and women saved from a culture of idolatry, lust, gluttony, greed, and sin.  It was the first Christian church in a very dark, dark culture.  The apostle Paul planted the church in Corinth and labored to see them grow in the wisdom of God.

Aug 2, 2015

A peek inside Tammy's Bible Journal

I want to introduce you to Tammy who was kind enough to let us snoop inside her Bible journal.  I love Tammy's simple creativity and how she makes the study her own.  But she can tell you better than I.  Thanks for sharing with us Tammy!
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 I am 50 years old, divorced, and have two beautiful grown daughters.   I accepted Jesus as my savior at the age of 9 and was blessed with Godly parents.  In my younger years and into my teen years, I was in active in GMA’s (Girls Missionary Auxiliary) in our church.  We had a handbook with different levels and in each level we had to memorize verses and read biographies about people in the Bible.  When we passed that level we had a ceremony where we received recognition for what we had learned.  That was my first introduction to reading the Bible.  


Jul 31, 2015

A peek inside Candice's Bible Journal

Today we get to see inside Candice's Bible journal!
I love taking a peek inside other people's journals and seeing what they are doing and learning!  Thanks, Candice.


Jul 30, 2015

Giveaways, Links, and Queens

It is crucial, in this day and age, that we know what the Bible says, and that we read and understand it for ourselves.  Yes, listen and learn from others, but make your primary way of learning just you and the Holy Spirit.  Go to others who have studied and learned longer than you for questions and proper thinking and to check yourself, but first get in the Word and dig around for yourself!  You know the importance of understanding the word, and how doodling helps you when your focus and understanding wane, and over at A Little R&R I gave three reasons why you should be doodling.  She also is offering a chance to enter a drawing to win the Corinthians package that will be out this Saturday!  Be sure to enter!


Jul 29, 2015

How to Start a Bible Study Revolution and a GIVEAWAY!



We seem to have accidentally started a revolution of sorts and I'm not really sure how.  I didn't mean to create a "new and exciting" kind of thing because I'm not a "new and exciting" kind of person. (I wanted that in high school when it could have meant something!) My blog is not poetic. My posts are inconsistent. I rarely make any promises that following my advice will change your life (in just five steps!) On most days, I can’t even manage to keep my punctuation in place.

Jul 28, 2015

5 simple ways to add Bible into your Homeschool



Adding Bible study into homeschool is tricky because it's the most important subject we have, but it can very easily become the most dreaded subject too.

I used to think my boys got "enough" Bible between Wednesday night AWANA and the scripture sprinkled through out the other subjects we were studying.... 

Jul 25, 2015

A Peek Inside Rachel's Bible Journal

I just love it when people allow me to peek over their shoulders and see what they're learning through the Journal and Doodle Bible studies! I was able to interview Rachel and she graciously shared some of what God has been teaching her through her time journaling and doodling. Hope you enjoy it as much as I have. Thank you Rachel!
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Before coming to Christ, I was a spiritually searching GOD-believer, just not a Jesus believer. I was happy most of the time and very much connected to God through nature. But I resisted Christianity.